Choosing between parenting, adoption, and abortion can be very difficult. When we’re facing hard decisions, we often think that we will know what the right choice is because it will be easy or it will feel good. Many women start out thinking that adoption would be too hard, and then come to find that sometimes the hardest thing is the right thing, too.
When you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, the truth is that all the possible choices will be hard in one way or another. So yes, placing your baby for adoption might be hard…but it might also be right. Check out these stories from women we have worked with– women who have chosen adoption for their child and who now look back with confidence and pride at the decisions they made, however hard they might have been.
When I first called Adoption by Shepherd Care, I didn’t even know what questions to ask…
My caseworker was very caring and made me feel comfortable, and she didn’t try to sell me on the idea of adoption. She gave me a lot of information and in time I did decide that it was the best decision for me and my baby. I am so glad that I called Adoption by Shepherd Care and that they worked with me even though I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do.
Becky & Tom
When my husband and I found out I was pregnant again, we were shocked and not sure what do…
We considered abortion but frankly, when I went to the abortion clinic, I knew I couldn’t do it. We already had 2 children and with the economy and other circumstances in our life, parenting another child was out of the question. Our case worker helped us find the perfect family to adopt our daughter, and that made us feel so much more confident that we were doing the right thing. We get to see pictures of our child and hear about what’s going on with her. We shared openly with our other kids and they knew that we had a baby for someone who couldn’t have a baby. As hard as it was, it has really worked out well for our family.
Fourteen years ago, at age 18, I found myself pregnant. I was getting ready to graduate high school and was planning on going to college…
My family suggested that through adoption I could plan for my child’s life and still be able to carry on with my goals and plans. That felt selfish to me, so initially, I wasn’t sure I could go through with it for that reason. But over time I realized that I just really wasn’t ready to be a mom and that my baby could be provided for better with someone else. It is crazy to think of yourself that way, but I realized that this was true and that it was the best decision for her. It ended up being a good decision for me too for lots of reasons, but I did get to go on to college and get my degree. I still get pictures regularly and send her a birthday card every year. Placing my baby for adoption was definitely the right choice for me, even though it didn’t seem like it was at first.